Quotes about mental-abuse

The scars from mental cruelty can be as deep and long-lasting as wounds from punches or slaps but are often not asobvious. In fact, even among women who have experienced violence from a partner, half or more report that the man’s emotional abuse is what is causing them the greatest harm.

The central attitudes driving the Water Torturer are:You are crazy. You fly off the handle over nothing.I can easily convince other people that you’re the one who is messed up.As long as I’m calm, you can’t call anything I do abusive, no matter how cruel.I know exactly how to get under your skin.

The central attitudes driving Mr. Right are:You should be in awe of my intelligence and should look up to me intellectually. I know better than you do, even about what’s good for you.Your opinions aren’t worth listening to carefully or taking seriously.The fact that you sometimes disagree with me shows how sloppy your thinking is.If you would just accept that I know what’s right, our relationship would go much better. Your own life would go better, too.When you disagree with me about something,

The central attitudes driving the Terrorist are:You have no right to defy me or leave me. Your life is in my hands.Women are evil and have to be kept terrorized to prevent that evil from coming forth.I would rather die than accept your right to independence.The children are one of the best tools I can use to make you fearful.Seeing you terrified is exciting and satisfying.

The symptoms of abuse are there, and the woman usually sees them: the escalating frequency of put-downs. Early generosity turning more and more to selfishness. Verbal explosions when he is irritated or when he doesn’t get his way. Her grievances constantly turned around on her, so that everything is her own fault. His growing attitude that he knows what is good for her better than she does. And, in many relationships, a mounting sense of fear or intimidation. But the woman also sees that her par

Her mother always told her, “If he hits you, then you leave,” but Jack had never hit her, not with his fists.

When I ask you who you are, you'd better say my fucking name.

Jail has become the biggest mental health hospital.

how many times had I begged Mom to divorce him already?

Self Hate: The deadliest 'dis-ease' experienced by wounded souls.

Staying in an unhealthy relationship that robs you of peace of mind, is not being loyal. It is choosing to hurt yourself mentally, emotionally and sometimes, physically.

We invent what we need to get us by, but in doing so we are really continuing to hold on to the pain of yesterday.

You can learn to heal yourself, learn to understand that the pain you feel today is the strength you feel tomorrow!

Pain can cause us to learn no end of lessons, but without resolution there can be no healing!

The pain you have gone through will give you the strength of character to come through it all, so long as you learn from what you have suffered then it was not suffering at all.

What you have suffered after you have healed will make perfect sense.

You are not, though, forgiving so as to let others off with things. You are forgiving so that you can empower yourself to get over it and become strong.

The practice of forgiving is a sequential practice that begins with excusing someone.

As human beings, we are custom made to be happy. Why then would we want to change the order of things by not being happy?

The pain you feel is simply because you do not yet have the strength to forgive. But you will grow strong again, that is for sure.

Due to the need to co-exist with these inhuman and inconsiderate people, we will obviously be disturbed by their acts; something which if we look at closely actually means that we too could be affecting some other people negatively every once in a while.

One way you can trace your way back to real and true happiness and joy is through forgiveness.

By understanding the basic impediments to forgiveness, the repercussions of failing to forgive and the fruits of forgiveness, this will lead you gently to the shoreline of a distinct new and more powerful YOU.

When you forgive, it does not mean that you have submitted, it simply means that you have made a choice to stop bearing any grudge.

You are the custodian of your own happiness. What other people say, do or think does not create a basis for your happiness. It is you who decides your own happiness, just like forgiveness.

The heart is where the journey of forgiveness begins.

Locking ourselves in the situation where we wish for sympathy and want to be looked at as the aggrieved party normally makes us powerless.

The moment we become forgivers, then we are in line to enjoy the benefits of forgiveness.

The idea of forgiveness is a journey that requires patience. If the journey of forgiveness is well travelled, there is a chance that we are bound to change in a very helpful way.

Sometimes we are very convinced that what we went through needs to be re-lived so we end up going back and forth to the demons of the past and eventually we fail to get over them.

Forgiveness does not change the past, that’s for sure, but it does change the future.

The minute we put aside our self-righteousness and move away from being the aggrieved, then we are on a healing process.

The only thing that will make us remain glued to being the victim is our failure to handle the emotions that we go through and the pain that overcomes us.

When you make up your mind to forgive, your happiness will almost automatically follow.

In an unforgiving world, chaos rules.

When you forgive, you immerse yourself in healing waters.

When you forgive, you are freed from some of the feelings of disapproval and it can contribute to lessening your negative thoughts.

Offer yourself forgiveness as a gift. The word ‘give’ is the basic keyword in the word forgiveness, therefore it relays a meaning therein.

The same zeal and guts with which you were persistent not to forgive is the same zeal and enthusiasm with which you should be able to open up a new relationship with your partner, loved one or friend, one that is founded on commitment and dedication.

Your forgiveness or failure to forgive simply takes you nearer or further away from your ultimate goal. There are no two ways to deal with it, there is only one.

Blaming other people inevitably makes us blame ourselves because if we are pointing the finger at someone, practically, we are pointing it at ourselves as well.

We are often so convinced that we are so hurt and in pain, so much so that we opt not to forgive. Yet, as a consequence, that is what will make you weak!

Just because you have been through a bad experience does not give you the ticket to keep going back to that situation over and over again and dramatizing it out of proportion.

Overly playing the role of the victim can debar you from accepting responsibility for your actions and emotions.

Being joyous or happy is not something you should feel guilty about.

The idea of always wanting to be the victim in circumstances where you have been offended is a common human trait. Each person wants to be viewed as the aggrieved party.

Do the forgiveness and carry on going forward. Leave the worrying to the other person. Eat what is on your plate and leave the rest to them.

In the process of forgiveness, you can only control your own actions and decisions.

The purpose of forgiveness is not to make sure that someone ends up changing into what you expect them to be, as this is dominance. The purpose is actually to make your own life better, more worthy and less stressful. Forgiveness reduces the hold that the wrongdoer has over you and empowers you.

Assuming you are still lost in thought about when exactly you should forgive someone, well the time is NOW.

Distancing yourself from some painful event is probably the ignition for the process of forgiveness.

Failing to forgive yourself for certain wrongs you committed in the past can create self-dislike.

Other people may well not find it relevant that you have forgiven yourself, but you need to know that it is not for them anyway. Everything at the moment is wholly about you.

A broken and mended relationship turns out to be stronger than one that has never been broken, almost like how bones can become even stronger once broken and then healed.

Take a walk through the garden of forgiveness and pick a flower of forgiveness for everything you have ever done.

You are simply naturally inclined to make mistakes just as everyone else is, whether male or female, black or white, young or old. These mistakes are your school of learning, therefore forgiveness is your greatest teacher in this school of learning.

Forgiveness is not simply a single act, it is a full process.

If there ever was someone who had a control over you, someone who could cause you the greatest pain, someone who could ignore your most necessary requirements and someone for whom forgiveness were truly difficult to render, that person is none other than YOU.

All the resentment that lies in your heart is simply causing damage to you mostly.

Just because someone wakes up one morning and says, “Today I am going to be rich,” does not automatically make them rich. So the same is true with forgiveness, it has to come from the heart with meaning, that is when it works best.

The moment we see beyond our personal desires to be felt sympathy for, that is the time we can actually start the journey to that final destination of true forgiveness.

If we studied the issue of forgiveness with a wider perspective, we are bound to opt for it after all.

Forgiveness does carry with it numerous obstacles and one may well be surprised why many people find it a very difficult hurdle to jump over.

The most basic method one can use to let go of the past is by looking at it as a learning experience.

Do not be deceived that you are weak because you have forgiven; instead be rest assured that you are now showing great strength - after all, forgiving is one of the most difficult things to do.

Remember, forgiveness is not a millstone but a milestone!

The truth is, forgiving is a rather simple concept to grasp. It is often imagined that when you forgive, you have to reconcile with someone and yet this is a larger team in which forgiveness is just a player.

The world is full of victims; don’t add to the growing culture of “I’ve a story to tell”, well not unless it’s a story to help others overcome situations or as a warning.

Do not allow yourself to be pulled into the role of embracing victimship as some sort of badge of honor to wear or flash around at any opportunity.

Before making a snap judgment, ask yourself if it really is something that has hurt you or simply just made you angry at yourself for allowing it to happen. It’s amazing what ‘sleeping on it’ can do. A new day sees a new beginning.

This pain you are avoiding is a very necessary pain that will make you strong again.